tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post2215415431062889920..comments2024-03-27T16:19:53.023+00:00Comments on Friko's World: Past livesFrikohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-49195315390210790562022-01-09T00:21:01.882+00:002022-01-09T00:21:01.882+00:00Burning the painfully written parts may be therape...Burning the painfully written parts may be therapeutic and some things aren't worth recalling.Bohemianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03743017084098726581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-53188630608602491362021-11-29T18:31:33.257+00:002021-11-29T18:31:33.257+00:00Friko, what wise words. The fact that you decided ...Friko, what wise words. The fact that you decided to read your diaries is already a feat. We do not always want to plunge into a past life. Sometimes I reread old letters to me or to my relatives and I am glad that my past life will not return. Nadezdahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159291982383302922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-60526980025963598992021-11-29T03:08:56.146+00:002021-11-29T03:08:56.146+00:00I am so glad that you are at the end of the re-rea...I am so glad that you are at the end of the re-reading of the dismal and disheartening years, and have the wonderful years with your Beloved to look over. I have kept journals for many years, and find that writing helps me to clarify my thinking about an issue, and also has a cathartic effect if something is bothering me. Lorriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03653026442945027184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-45945644834323700172021-11-29T01:03:35.909+00:002021-11-29T01:03:35.909+00:00I never kept journals or dairies, but I think abou...I never kept journals or dairies, but I think about the past a lot. I’m a childless widow. I think we tend to do that as we get older because there is more past than future and that makes me sad for some reason. All the things and people that are gone.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987527540895782339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-21400746056584770332021-11-29T00:40:01.338+00:002021-11-29T00:40:01.338+00:00One reason you are so treasured——-You always give ...One reason you are so treasured——-You always give us something to think about. Then, the commenters add to the value of whatever the subject is. Finding that you have posted always makes for a better day! Take care of you. No more falls or car crashes, we hope. And thanks for writing. RunNRosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610154229648677906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-23125962079274997602021-11-29T00:24:31.608+00:002021-11-29T00:24:31.608+00:00I've kept journals since 1978. One of the best...I've kept journals since 1978. One of the best reasons for writing them is to purge my fears/sorrows. The other best reason is to reread them to know I've survived OK and all I worried about did not happen or in time was OK. Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-78751169448671275432021-11-28T23:47:57.713+00:002021-11-28T23:47:57.713+00:00I've kept journals for about 20 years. Occasio...I've kept journals for about 20 years. Occasionally reread a few pages. We were frenzied raising 8 kids in our blended family, and I worried and stewed about them all when they were teenagers. Now I look back and realized a lot of that worry was just activity for my anxious brain. As Mark Twain said, "I am an old man and I have had many troubles, but most of them never happened." Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-79566717442239816012021-11-28T20:24:49.993+00:002021-11-28T20:24:49.993+00:00That was a valuable lesson and I'm not only gr...That was a valuable lesson and I'm not only grateful he shared it with you but you shared it with us. It's something I have to continually keep in mind. And yes, it all starts with us working from the inside out.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-56728891024717686422021-11-28T19:31:45.514+00:002021-11-28T19:31:45.514+00:00You have to do what is right for you. I keep a wri...You have to do what is right for you. I keep a writing journal, and sometimes find a nugget about my life on years pastt, outside of my writing writing. I do not keep a diary or journal but have friends who start their day journaling. Hope life is treating you better.Linda O'Connellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10902900013539048683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-41171226610463857192021-11-28T18:25:23.661+00:002021-11-28T18:25:23.661+00:00Letting go is so difficult for us German but we ca...Letting go is so difficult for us German but we can do it. At least I am trying and I am doing pretty well. Gerlinde de Broekerthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06174961875518661639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-50323670339055607852021-11-28T14:42:15.297+00:002021-11-28T14:42:15.297+00:00I kept a diary and a scrapbook through high school...I kept a diary and a scrapbook through high school, and then I threw them all away. I've never regretted keeping them, or getting rid of them. As a matter of fact, my high school year books went, too. I had a wonderful childhood, was miserable in junior high, and accomplished but anxious in high school -- so I kept what was good, and left the rest behind. Now I'm an adult, and busy livingshoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-1749406636937490052021-11-28T13:00:24.662+00:002021-11-28T13:00:24.662+00:00Hi Friko - so glad I never kept a journal ... I di...Hi Friko - so glad I never kept a journal ... I did write some long letters from South Africa and then realised I could write - and so now wish I'd known that earlier in life. But as I'm on my own and none of us have children - I have no reason to wish to leave my life in print ... also the family on both sides have their histories written in books for them. I can cope and just draw Hilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-35209269780806406372021-11-28T08:07:51.252+00:002021-11-28T08:07:51.252+00:00I never kept a journal I as was always concerned s...I never kept a journal I as was always concerned someone else might read my words or they could be misused. Ironically, some years ago a dear friend, Univ. English instructor, now deceased, gave me a blank paged book in which to journal. I decided to write in it, but my first writing I carefully worded what I wrote in a way that only I would be able to interpret what I was really saying. Lo Joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03155775053108104385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-33835896251780407282021-11-28T02:56:11.795+00:002021-11-28T02:56:11.795+00:00A very thought-provoking post. I am glad you are d...A very thought-provoking post. I am glad you are doing well.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-8665612700705157452021-11-28T00:58:47.307+00:002021-11-28T00:58:47.307+00:00I got rid of most of my diaries last year---I'...I got rid of most of my diaries last year---I'm nearly 80---kept only those from my teen years. Re-reading old dieries can be cathartic, help us understand ourselves better. Quoting that good advice you got, that helped form your strength, does the man who gave it to you the tribute he deserves. It's putting his device out into the world again where who knows how many others are reading Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-35530751826275964462021-11-28T00:21:52.491+00:002021-11-28T00:21:52.491+00:00You'll never know how much I appreciate the wi...You'll never know how much I appreciate the wisdom you have shared with us here. I wish you all the best, my friend ♥️Cloudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853753108637831069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-76951536666508584522021-11-27T23:09:02.688+00:002021-11-27T23:09:02.688+00:00Oh, hello, so sorry to hear that you are alone now...Oh, hello, so sorry to hear that you are alone now, so very sad and I feel for you. Yes, I know Clun very well, my sister lived there for sometime, how long have you lived there? And well done for learning to change, I may have that hurdle to face one day, we are both 85. <br />Kind regards, Carole.lostinimaginaryworlds.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14765118845864442948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-79159337618914474512021-11-27T23:06:10.451+00:002021-11-27T23:06:10.451+00:00They say FEAR is false expectations appearing real...They say FEAR is false expectations appearing real... There should perhaps be an equivalent for guilt. But I resonated with your words when you said ... 'but first I had to change'. In a different context I learned that too. Wise words.The bike shedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05195882998271591934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-35695796202125463062021-11-27T21:55:59.008+00:002021-11-27T21:55:59.008+00:00Happiness is an inside job, as they say but gettin...Happiness is an inside job, as they say but getting there - well, there's the rub. I had many of my old journals burned. I hated reading them and now have forgotten them.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-47570478966501248052021-11-27T21:03:04.029+00:002021-11-27T21:03:04.029+00:00I'm not sure if reading old diaries is a good ...I'm not sure if reading old diaries is a good thing or a bad thing. I guess it depends on what you take from the exercise. But your post reminds me of a quote from a book I just read, The Vanishing Half by Brit Bennett: “The hardest part about becoming someone else is deciding to. The rest is only logistics.”Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08611148987085476580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-990780562780297512021-11-27T20:23:29.549+00:002021-11-27T20:23:29.549+00:00I have no diary, only my blog. My second husband ...I have no diary, only my blog. My second husband died in September and the grief for him makes me realise that I didn't have time to give to grieving for Russell, so it's compounded and yet I am still far too busy, It's all difficult, isn't it?Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-61312326688824102142021-11-27T19:58:17.546+00:002021-11-27T19:58:17.546+00:00Now you can focus on this second half of your life...Now you can focus on this second half of your life and all the new and wonderful things you did. The food eating out, the theater, and the music. I am so sorry. I grew up poor and somewhat intimidated, but I did change as a teenager.Taborhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15257045780724471840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-7990092839895422472021-11-27T19:37:03.975+00:002021-11-27T19:37:03.975+00:00Thank you for this pertinent reminder. If I knew ...Thank you for this pertinent reminder. If I knew where my guilt button was I would disconnect it. Permanently. I cannot think of anything good it has brought me. And it is on a hair trigger too.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-24749992472885718472021-11-27T19:09:14.264+00:002021-11-27T19:09:14.264+00:00Being the problem solver and negotiating for their...Being the problem solver and negotiating for their problems is exhausting. Middle child always seems to be in this position. As a teacher, I was a whiz at problem solving. Now, as a retired teacher, it is hard to move out of that job.<br /><br />I have some journals that I want to read again. Maybe.Susan Kanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834094675218254410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-63654888126489532522021-11-27T18:49:58.014+00:002021-11-27T18:49:58.014+00:00Friko, I too have old journals and reread them on ...Friko, I too have old journals and reread them on occasion. But I feel myself lucky in that I have never been unhappy - sad on occasion, but never unhappy. Life may not have turned out exactly as I expected, but good non-the-less. I have always known that you can't make other people happy - that's something that they have to do themselves (although you can help by always being there for Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.com