tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post8263322935624578425..comments2024-03-27T16:19:53.023+00:00Comments on Friko's World: In LimboFrikohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-58394528181422903212017-03-28T18:18:05.183+01:002017-03-28T18:18:05.183+01:00It is worth doing anything, including decluttering...It is worth doing anything, including decluttering, to stop your mind from whirling round and round. I am not sure it's a good idea to throw out the personal stuff - you are in a strange state of mind just now and it's not the time for making decisions. Oh dear, I am so sorry to read about your situation. Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-3280334260323674042017-03-13T05:15:51.375+00:002017-03-13T05:15:51.375+00:00Allow some time to let your brain process the sorr...Allow some time to let your brain process the sorrow and loss. There is no need to pack up right away. And allow yourself assistance when the time is more right. For now the sadness is too overwhelming. Take time and allow yourself the process of your loss to move along a gradual path. No need to rush forward. May your 30 come for you.Heidrun Khokhar, KleinsteMottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174142810114806410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-10671172534526758482017-03-04T19:54:36.975+00:002017-03-04T19:54:36.975+00:00Sending my sincere thoughts to you, Friko. You are...Sending my sincere thoughts to you, Friko. You are a great person and you deserve to be happy and content <3Optimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-62260047002433991542017-03-04T17:52:18.205+00:002017-03-04T17:52:18.205+00:00Dear Friko, in the midst of taking a little break ...Dear Friko, in the midst of taking a little break from blogging, today I wanted to visit some of my friends. If I were living closer to you, I hope that I would be able to be a closer friend. Even so, I hope you might allow yourself more time to make some decisions that might wait. Will you please give dear Millie a pat or two...and perhaps a scratch behind her ears sent all the way across theFranceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352407314710067616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-73638468681431466772017-03-02T01:04:14.179+00:002017-03-02T01:04:14.179+00:00There's no "should" to it. You have ...There's no "should" to it. You have to navigate your own course through grief and letting go. And there's no way for it not to be hard. I'm so sorry.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-26110484889023785062017-03-01T22:54:46.962+00:002017-03-01T22:54:46.962+00:00my friend, i so understand. our possessions and me...my friend, i so understand. our possessions and memories collect dust. but i swear to you the love is underneath it all. <br /><br />you have every reason to grieve, as if you have a choice. but i want to tell you something else: push yourself. choose a person or a cause or an activity and get involved. create a small structure from it. that will be your starting point of rebuilding.<br /><br />kjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-71459537590468588962017-03-01T22:50:33.133+00:002017-03-01T22:50:33.133+00:00Feeling in limbo makes so much sense in the face o...Feeling in limbo makes so much sense in the face of all this. Our thoughts are with you always.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15674930917585246294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-77105976234973290532017-02-28T14:01:43.420+00:002017-02-28T14:01:43.420+00:00I think of you daily with great affection. Thank y...I think of you daily with great affection. Thank you for showing me what may be my own future, albeit without children - even distant ones. Yes. Your recordings must be worth quite a lot to those interested. Though research on this is likely not what you wish to be doing. Perhaps son could help in this? Bless you my friend. Thanks for inviting us along. Don't want to lose you <3Cloudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853753108637831069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-39539936107050811742017-02-27T06:28:25.845+00:002017-02-27T06:28:25.845+00:00Taking your time with all the choices you have to ...Taking your time with all the choices you have to make is what I would suggest if you are staying in place where you are as I assume is so. Perhaps your husband had some close music colleagues you could talk with about what they might think of with regard to disposition of various musical items you have. Likely you've thought of just inputting internet searches to see what information you joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999395062839739698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-37703268462677920242017-02-26T19:38:57.953+00:002017-02-26T19:38:57.953+00:00Take your time, moving your beloved to the nursing...Take your time, moving your beloved to the nursing facility is a big change for you, change sometimes confuses the best of us. You are grieving because you are about to lose someone you love, dementia is so heart wrenching...the person is slipping away ...but the body is still there. It is not easy, do whatever makes you feel okay and that may change from day to day. :(Far Side of Fiftyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-8410178872932015732017-02-26T17:30:44.592+00:002017-02-26T17:30:44.592+00:00I have to echo the advice to not rid yourself of t...I have to echo the advice to not rid yourself of too much, too soon. It's not uncommon for people in your situation -- or those who have lost a partner in another way, such as divorce -- to want to get rid of the pain by getting rid of material things that hold memories.<br /><br />Unfortunately, it never works. Even worse, in the future, when such items could be a source of comfort and shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-42469168570001311032017-02-26T00:40:04.648+00:002017-02-26T00:40:04.648+00:00What you are feeling and experiencing is oh so typ...What you are feeling and experiencing is oh so typical.<br />When we are in limbo the first inclination is to try to get out of it as soon as possible. I advise not trying.<br />Painful as it is, be still. After awhile the fog will clear and you will know what direction you do for the first step. Good luck. Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-10246643276769412592017-02-25T12:10:49.580+00:002017-02-25T12:10:49.580+00:00Dear Friko - haven't visited your page for a w...Dear Friko - haven't visited your page for a while due to illness - so was devastated by your news - Limbo is such an apt title to this one - there is no easy way to get through Limbo - just plodding on one day at a time - but there will be an end and you will be able to look back and know you did your best for your Beloved and know that he will know that also. Take care of yourself Jintyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05264607870697447979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-12320164925056559162017-02-24T11:58:17.858+00:002017-02-24T11:58:17.858+00:00I am very sorry. This is something mostly we women...I am very sorry. This is something mostly we women must face alone even when the ages aren't far <br />apart and even when the illness is not dementia. My husband died and I moved three years later, so I'm familiar with decluttering. Ultimately it feels good to be rid of things you never use or enjoy, but take your time because I made a few mistakes, I wish I'd kept. Millie will be a Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987527540895782339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-76265960297888214502017-02-24T05:07:54.577+00:002017-02-24T05:07:54.577+00:00I have no words. Your sorrow echoes in my heart a...I have no words. Your sorrow echoes in my heart and your words haunt my mind. Treasures suddenly become meaningless when the Treasure greater than all those other reminders of days gone forever is no longer a part of all that gave life such joy and meaning. Great grief can create such a feeling of "I must do something even if I don't know just what it is I must do." Living in Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-24703710602669088072017-02-24T04:06:40.001+00:002017-02-24T04:06:40.001+00:00Thinking of you, friend Friko .... me too is marri...Thinking of you, friend Friko .... me too is married to a much older man ... we took to traveling together<br />and enjoy while we can ... but I know the day will come, when the bodies and/ or minds will fail. Am not looking<br />forward to that. Thank you for sharing your thoughts as they are very valuable to me ... Love, cat.^.^https://www.blogger.com/profile/17422876955246850636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-73132671119614326802017-02-24T03:42:31.384+00:002017-02-24T03:42:31.384+00:00Quite a huge change in your life. Be kind to yours...Quite a huge change in your life. Be kind to yourself and don't rush anything.mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797484583400519909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-55014820768628465712017-02-23T23:03:32.449+00:002017-02-23T23:03:32.449+00:00Friko, I'm just catching up with your news. Ho...Friko, I'm just catching up with your news. How stressful for you. Don't do too much clearing out of stuff just now. Your mind needs to adjust to the big change of your Beloved being out of your home. I'm glad you have Milllie. She demands her share of attention, and she's company for you. It doesn't seem as though your Beloved will know if you miss a few days between visits. Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984171407726520584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-38355519979450728982017-02-23T22:28:13.612+00:002017-02-23T22:28:13.612+00:00It doesn't have to be done right now , unless ...It doesn't have to be done right now , unless it makes you feel more in control . <br />The staff is right about visiting , you need to take the odd day off , before you become exhausted . But most important to remember ... there is no wrong or right . SmitoniusAndSonatahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11210817141287881808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-7322647599055593112017-02-23T21:26:17.306+00:002017-02-23T21:26:17.306+00:00thinking of you
with gentle thoughts.
some of us w...thinking of you<br />with gentle thoughts.<br />some of us will have to go through this<br />eventually.<br />go slow, one day at a time...My Journey To Mindfulnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15743386000772274656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-55236967728281060822017-02-23T18:50:33.433+00:002017-02-23T18:50:33.433+00:00Good Morning Friko,
Sunny here near Vancouver BC ...Good Morning Friko, <br />Sunny here near Vancouver BC but still cold - around 5C. I notice that my garlic is peeking through and the snowdrops are nodding their heads. I think spring may be around the corner! <br /><br /> It is difficult to shed your history which is represented by so many of the collections you have gathered through the years. <br /><br />I found it was easier to give thingsminwkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08487584020742239991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-16935120591631630872017-02-23T17:55:52.356+00:002017-02-23T17:55:52.356+00:00You are grieving. Please take things slowly and do...You are grieving. Please take things slowly and do be kind to yourself. Hugs!ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-22105788694526418652017-02-23T15:21:21.080+00:002017-02-23T15:21:21.080+00:00Be gentle on yourself . Don't beat yourself up...Be gentle on yourself . Don't beat yourself up, just do a little bit at a time or do nothing .Vinyl records can be worth something, they are back in fashion. I can just imagine how you feel. At our age we ar forced to make changes , that's why it is so difficult.Gerlinde de Broekerthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06174961875518661639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-22498361107414181362017-02-23T14:40:36.034+00:002017-02-23T14:40:36.034+00:00change comes whether we like it or not, whether we...change comes whether we like it or not, whether we are ready or not. you needn't be in any hurry to clear things out. you're still adjusting, finding your sea legs. we all like to tell ourselves that we will be fine alone and I suppose we all will but it will take time to find a new routine, a friend to do things with. in the meantime, don't be too hard on yourself. ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-44520389881826124212017-02-23T14:08:13.895+00:002017-02-23T14:08:13.895+00:00Very honest. I applaud you for that and for your ...Very honest. I applaud you for that and for your forgiving all of us who share our experiences with this. The staff at the home have seen this thousands of times and try to help those who visit realize they must change their lives. There was a rather funny news story here with a message to elders, the them being nobody wants you precious junk. I gave away to the thrift shop a whole set of Taborhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15257045780724471840noreply@blogger.com