tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post8010830531178637757..comments2024-03-16T21:27:00.457+00:00Comments on Friko's World: Living with Dementia / 2Frikohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-58967275891180445872017-01-11T18:03:58.272+00:002017-01-11T18:03:58.272+00:00And again, I'm sorry. Holding you in my heart....And again, I'm sorry. Holding you in my heart.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-22973320004959312712017-01-10T19:38:10.951+00:002017-01-10T19:38:10.951+00:00I am aware that there are moments when the person ...I am aware that there are moments when the person gets strong willed and even gets a surge of enormous physical strength that are most unpredictable. Can Millie be trained to bark if he tries to leave the house?<br /> You are really on a new path of care giving.<br />My hubby keeps insisting we have to watch Downton Abbey each night since September. We have gone through 4 repetitions of all the Heidrun Khokhar, KleinsteMottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174142810114806410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-63640792671765619182017-01-10T12:27:00.037+00:002017-01-10T12:27:00.037+00:00This is so sad. I feel for you.This is so sad. I feel for you.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987527540895782339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-8775603314967607132017-01-10T02:51:38.462+00:002017-01-10T02:51:38.462+00:00Your dog did a wonderful thing in following...I wi...Your dog did a wonderful thing in following...I wish you strength and I'm glad others have been helpful.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-49601428102404526822017-01-10T02:08:20.598+00:002017-01-10T02:08:20.598+00:00You are doing such a great job caring for him.You are doing such a great job caring for him.Shoshanah Marohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07532684548824957399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-69061443974780297012017-01-10T01:08:50.772+00:002017-01-10T01:08:50.772+00:00A little beside the point, but I'm gonna say i...A little beside the point, but I'm gonna say it anyway, friend Friko ... Dogs know more than we think they do ... Millie is much like my Piwo was with me ... Piwo knew a day ahead when I would have a migraine ... he would not leave me out of his sight ... in fact he would stay physically so close to me, that I would almost stumble over him at times ... and sure enough ... next day I would ^.^https://www.blogger.com/profile/17422876955246850636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-80590524369868210862017-01-09T23:31:48.763+00:002017-01-09T23:31:48.763+00:00when we stop trying, we start dying. when we stop trying, we start dying. ariverflowsbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02183454403933581280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-48550986220739053012017-01-09T20:06:40.451+00:002017-01-09T20:06:40.451+00:00Oh dear, dear Friko. My heart just broke for you ...Oh dear, dear Friko. My heart just broke for you all. I see that Jeanie has advised caution when it comes to supporting Beloved when he might fall. I had just thought the same thing. Being a caretaker means that you too could so easily be hurt trying to keep him from being hurt in a fall. <br /><br />Dear Millie. She stayed by his side and led to him being recognized. <br /><br />All of Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-17291804206754937992017-01-09T19:25:03.460+00:002017-01-09T19:25:03.460+00:00You are living the experience of my friend Cheri. ...You are living the experience of my friend Cheri. Hands on, day and night, and be careful they don't escape. You will need new locks or better ones, And especially the kindness of friends. It sounds like they are there for you and if there is any comfort, I think everyone is willing to help as they can for they, too, are in the path of this disease as are those they love.<br /><br />One thingJeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-45477319210231828102017-01-09T16:17:30.248+00:002017-01-09T16:17:30.248+00:00You need eyes in the back of your head and locks o...You need eyes in the back of your head and locks on the doors: but most of all you need to ensure that you have proper rest to enable you to cope.<br />People will be all too willing to help, but don't always know what is needed...so don't be too independent to ask or to admit that it is a frightening situation.the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-6944252366447915712017-01-09T16:14:48.796+00:002017-01-09T16:14:48.796+00:00Love and hugs! I guess all you can do is be glad ...Love and hugs! I guess all you can do is be glad you are the one looking and not the one who is lost. You have a rough road ahead. We're here for you, even if it doesn't help as much as people who can move beds and locate lost husbands. We're here for you. We can heart-listen.Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02043285884495492598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-89509563176874150552017-01-09T14:59:35.116+00:002017-01-09T14:59:35.116+00:00please do continue to write. it will be a good ou...please do continue to write. it will be a good outlet for you and I'm sure your readers will not abandon you. many of us probably have the same future waiting for us before too awfully long. please try and take some time for yourself. one of the vendor's (at the antique store) husband has Alzheimers and he managed to get out of the house and drive off before his wife noticed and he ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-13439270002830115502017-01-09T14:57:32.207+00:002017-01-09T14:57:32.207+00:00Is it OK to admit that I feel so deeply for what y...Is it OK to admit that I feel so deeply for what you are enduring instead of finding something upbeat to say?Cloudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853753108637831069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-68176730708136658302017-01-09T14:48:29.974+00:002017-01-09T14:48:29.974+00:00Dear Friko, your husband's ability to fly the ...Dear Friko, your husband's ability to fly the coop with such speed is very frightening. I am wondering if any of the doctors or carers are able to advise you on how to protect your Beloved from himself. <br /><br />Some of my dearest friends are facing a very serious medical situation in which one partner has become a round the clock carer. It is heartbreaking to see how both of their Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352407314710067616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-36708686846449374142017-01-09T14:36:57.304+00:002017-01-09T14:36:57.304+00:00My heart goes out to you. Nothing can prepare one...My heart goes out to you. Nothing can prepare one for this sort of situation, and nothing I can say will really help. Just know that my thoughts are with you and you take care. DianeDianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14782670749466305626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-7807369411299462402017-01-09T13:49:30.769+00:002017-01-09T13:49:30.769+00:00There is not much more I can say that hasn't a...There is not much more I can say that hasn't already been said, Friko, so I will wish you as peaceful a day as possible and I will thank you for continuing to share this rocky journey you are on. Penny O'Neillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14665025558373015362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-89067664733718787852017-01-09T13:46:21.674+00:002017-01-09T13:46:21.674+00:00He has come full circle, from toddler to toddler. ...He has come full circle, from toddler to toddler. I also feel for you, Friko, but I am glad you are taking the time to write about your experience, as you are not alone in trying to find a way to cope with a terrible situation. Sending you my sincere wishes that you will find the help you need for yourself.DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-70297151194828311212017-01-09T12:44:10.692+00:002017-01-09T12:44:10.692+00:00Thanks for sharing Friko. The world of dementia ca...Thanks for sharing Friko. The world of dementia can be very lonely for the spouse. Just like they say on airplanes (put on your own oxygen before you try to help someone else), you need to take good care of yourself so that you can be there for your beloved. Easier said than done, I know. <br /><br />There is a great website www.welcometodementialand.wordpress.com Elaine Eshbaugh is a professor Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-60706054735140972192017-01-09T12:16:56.192+00:002017-01-09T12:16:56.192+00:00Friko thinking of you as your world changes and on...Friko thinking of you as your world changes and on kindness when we need help<br />I am experiencing. It seems angels appear out of no where when we need them.<br />Take care of yourself and receive all the help you can..My Journey To Mindfulnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15743386000772274656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-5601051412685876802017-01-09T12:09:19.745+00:002017-01-09T12:09:19.745+00:00My cousin's husband is suffering from dementia...My cousin's husband is suffering from dementia, and she had a similar experience: waking in the middle of the night to find him gone. She searched their apartment, and then walked the building's hallways. As luck would have it, a friendly insomniac also was walking the hallways. She said, "I just saw a fellow in the front lobby -- perhaps it was your husband." Eventually, she shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-39631821177190352432017-01-09T11:08:48.623+00:002017-01-09T11:08:48.623+00:00Dear, dear Friko ~ My heart aches for you. What a ...Dear, dear Friko ~ My heart aches for you. What a scare you had, but what loving kindness is being shown to you by others. It is so unbearably hard watching our loved ones fade away. <br /><br />Love, hugs & prayers ~ FlowerLadyFlowerLady Lorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17678852154334714784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-31845799358774214272017-01-09T10:57:12.989+00:002017-01-09T10:57:12.989+00:00It is wonderful, how much kindness is there when w...It is wonderful, how much kindness is there when we really need it, and I do hope you continue to get all the help and support you need now. My mother was affected by dementia and it really is 24/7. Tough time.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588437065757203375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-20395619575080533242017-01-09T10:07:41.933+00:002017-01-09T10:07:41.933+00:00You'll need all the support you can get; don&#...You'll need all the support you can get; don't be reluctant to ask for it, please. People like to be useful, and there's a lot of goodwill out there. A gentler hug to you this time. Much love, D. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-14647209440145358422017-01-09T09:48:25.420+00:002017-01-09T09:48:25.420+00:00Until it happens , living with a dementia patient ...Until it happens , living with a dementia patient is impossible to imagine . You've caught it perfectly .<br />Take care of yourself .SmitoniusAndSonatahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11210817141287881808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-26194304653836627722017-01-09T08:50:08.345+00:002017-01-09T08:50:08.345+00:00Dear Friko - it is extraordinary how quickly peopl...Dear Friko - it is extraordinary how quickly people can up and go ... following what they think is their own routine at that time - Millie thank goodness seems to be aware of the situation. Oh ... such a difficult time - my thoughts as you go through the process and life as it is. You are showing us your strength and determination ... Beloved made an excellent decision all those years ago - my Hilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.com