tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post5805164290070856224..comments2024-03-27T16:19:53.023+00:00Comments on Friko's World: F is for Flattery - Friko's Personal and Private Alphabet GameFrikohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comBlogger66125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-5951141216995798652012-02-15T06:23:32.360+00:002012-02-15T06:23:32.360+00:00I have just spent a pleasant few minutes reading a...I have just spent a pleasant few minutes reading all your most recent posts Mdm Friko. <br /><br />I don't come and sit in your garden or by your kitchen stove nearly as often as I would like to, perhaps I am trying to diet my delights? (If that makes any sense.)<br /><br />I think the discipline of finding 13 blessings is useful for those of us who get rather gloomy - useful to remind Isabel Doylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17974989548030799086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-44957858049819455152012-02-10T23:59:34.514+00:002012-02-10T23:59:34.514+00:00You hit a lot of good points in this one! And I th...You hit a lot of good points in this one! And I think you nailed the blogging community in that we seek approval, sometimes. And there are lots of ways to get it. Of course, constructive criticism when asked for can be helpful and desired, but sometimes you just want to put it out there and hope people will like it. I've found if they like it, they do -- and you look at the words and think, &Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-66768308774651846582012-02-09T12:47:53.524+00:002012-02-09T12:47:53.524+00:00Very thought provoking! I hadn't stopped to c...Very thought provoking! I hadn't stopped to consider why I log in to my own blog so often--to see the comments (or lack there of), of course! ;-) I've learned many things in my 4 years of blogging, and what's very true is that you can't please everyone. I, for one, am a fan of yours because of the length of your stories, because of your clever and beautiful subject matter and Heidi-"Heidi in Real Life"https://www.blogger.com/profile/01765631003765541364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-30494815102791474582012-02-09T11:59:40.982+00:002012-02-09T11:59:40.982+00:00Ah, Friko, I loved this post! "...aware of th...Ah, Friko, I loved this post! "...aware of the latest developments in politics and current affairs..." Well not all of us bloggers, but I try my best.<br /><br />You right about such varied things, and so different from what a young mother might write about, so I think to critique blogs that are entirely unlike our own is a rather difficult task. I had my blog critiqued by a really Jaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06694559900539722616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-54328607334608276462012-02-08T22:31:40.129+00:002012-02-08T22:31:40.129+00:00So many blogs are quite idiosyncratic and will onl...So many blogs are quite idiosyncratic and will only appeal to a select group of articulate, intelligent, witty others -- one reason I read yours.Vicki Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08114677510459055768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-8986496549320419762012-02-08T22:00:06.566+00:002012-02-08T22:00:06.566+00:00All right, this is the truth. I saw the title of ...All right, this is the truth. I saw the title of this post on my sidebar and thought 'when is that woman going to run out of ideas??'. This, in case you aren't sure, was an entirely complimentary reaction, from one whose idea bin has only a couple of scraps in it. <br />Also, I only read Jocelyn's comment, because I always read hers. She can be counted on to be genuine, if not Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892637441668897411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-45729691584401198182012-02-08T16:22:17.154+00:002012-02-08T16:22:17.154+00:00A really intersting post-I feel that we tend to ha...A really intersting post-I feel that we tend to have enough hassle in our working lives so to do anything other than praise blogs seems a little harsh, unless the person has asked for constructive criticism. That said, I do fancy tracking down the criticism meme - finger in the vice time!<br /><br />Chrissy at Manchester a photo a day at<a href="http://mancunianwave.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow"> Chrissy Brandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08452491942706660652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-79088219346832103032012-02-08T14:33:57.059+00:002012-02-08T14:33:57.059+00:00One can tell the truth without being cruel, though...One can tell the truth without being cruel, though it is sometimes difficult. A couple of years ago, a woman made a negative comment about my blog. She was promptly criticized by two other blog friends. After they had defended me, that woman was shamed into never returning to my blog. No loss, believe me.gigi-hawaiinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-30491963843475879562012-02-08T13:58:33.071+00:002012-02-08T13:58:33.071+00:00"If you don't have anything good to say, ..."If you don't have anything good to say, let's hear it." PLEASE!Jackie Jordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04337167666859961439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-75810630884264449842012-02-08T13:55:55.682+00:002012-02-08T13:55:55.682+00:00Most people not only dislike non-positive comments...Most people not only dislike non-positive comments, they fear them. The blogosphere is being transformed into a sterile medium where non-positive comments are most always taken as an insult. Who wants to be deemed 'boring' or 'lewd' or even 'repulsive', when in fact that may be the author's objective, for whatever unknown reasons? No, negative comments are written on aJackie Jordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04337167666859961439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-10262921550890112172012-02-08T13:53:16.052+00:002012-02-08T13:53:16.052+00:00I think you've hit on somethere here, Friko.
...I think you've hit on somethere here, Friko.<br /><br />In general, I think bloggers and followers tend to be kind because they want the same returned, but I sometimes wonder: why no criticism? <br /><br />In real life, I can be quite the flatterer. My father was a salesman, and I grew up with his lessons in my head, that it hurts nothign -- and perhaps will help -- to tell someone nice aboutPearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261369905176088917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-21794583194646907122012-02-08T13:28:40.333+00:002012-02-08T13:28:40.333+00:00hi Friko .. gosh this blog is great - fun and witt...hi Friko .. gosh this blog is great - fun and witty, with lots of intelligent thought and loads of incredible information. Would hate it if you weren't around .. & I'm not flattering - just stating my ideas.<br /><br />I hate some blogs that are just boring diaries of their lives .. I like some character, some inventiveness and definitely uniqueness .. <br /><br />Cheers and keep on,Hilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-82524123708190432142012-02-08T10:38:22.536+00:002012-02-08T10:38:22.536+00:00My first priority in blogging is to (hopefully) be...My first priority in blogging is to (hopefully) be entertaining. I had my comments turned off for several years. I think I prefer comments on now simply because I get to meet people and have fun chatting. My second priority in blogging is to capture what I believe are significant events in my life, my feelings, moments of poetry, insight (?), inventions, discoveries but mostly all the humor. So esbbostonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09946279220170973147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-58636286200316075612012-02-08T09:01:57.256+00:002012-02-08T09:01:57.256+00:00Dear Friko, I have read only half through all your...Dear Friko, I have read only half through all your thoughtful comments but I like them all, and they speak for the quality of your blog that each one gives sincere consideration to what you said. Me, I like your blog very much and always come here with pleasure, even if I don`t comment.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06484336744673299416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-17675377677486534782012-02-08T05:00:28.180+00:002012-02-08T05:00:28.180+00:00On principle, of course, I have to disagree with a...On principle, of course, I have to disagree with anyone who assesses the quality of writing based on its length. That's sheer reader laziness--not at all a reflection of anything genuine.<br /><br />This comment-exchange exercise sounds like it was worth a go. It also sounds a fair bit like end-of-term student evaluations that I am required to collect; not surprisingly, there is a correlationJocelynhttp://omightycrisis.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-20691618208867811762012-02-08T04:19:48.828+00:002012-02-08T04:19:48.828+00:00You hit the nail on the head.
And I love flattery...You hit the nail on the head.<br /><br />And I love flattery as much as the next person.<br /><br />I also hope that not too many of us would lose sleep over comments that are critical....it's just a blog.christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08717459430504797508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-90113728284541657032012-02-07T22:47:21.592+00:002012-02-07T22:47:21.592+00:00Blogging hones our writing skills and the readers ...Blogging hones our writing skills and the readers come and go. When I am political the feathers start to fly a little and I like that, opposing points of view brought to the table kind of thing.<br />I am always pleased, however, when a long vanished reader of mine returns. <br />Flattery, obviously, has me panting.Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-50334053279348965432012-02-07T22:03:39.837+00:002012-02-07T22:03:39.837+00:00Honesty does perhaps tend to give feedback that is...Honesty does perhaps tend to give feedback that is more trustworthy, or does it? I'm not sure anonymity always guarantees honesty.<br /><br />As a college instructor/professor, I used dread the evaluations that would come in from students with whom I had been honest when evaluating or commenting on written assignments or lesson plans. When they did not improve and the grade remained low, ISally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-68558023586429457332012-02-07T21:51:11.535+00:002012-02-07T21:51:11.535+00:00When I was actively writing for the local newspape...When I was actively writing for the local newspaper people would criticize me for either being too sweet or too real (you can please some of the people some of the time, etc.... ), My response invariably was "Put the newspaper down if you don't like what you're reading."<br /><br />Honest doesn't have to mean rude. Appreciation doesn't have to be sappy. If we were havingPaulinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14555472024981357622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-85400393711426374472012-02-07T19:31:50.953+00:002012-02-07T19:31:50.953+00:00All I can say is that you are so right in your opi...All I can say is that you are so right in your opinion of your readers. It makes us all feel a little better about ourselves whether it is true or not. So thanks for the flattery!Jonohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18170214396483091419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-24005902795447847842012-02-07T16:38:55.355+00:002012-02-07T16:38:55.355+00:00I rarely read through all of your comments because...I rarely read through all of your comments because there are so many, but today I did, and noticed a couple of things.<br /><br />One is that we too often oppose positive comments and honest comments, as though honesty necessarily is negative. In fact, the sugary-sweet positive comment can be completely dishonest, and a negative comment (particularly if it is a response to content and comes with shoreacreshttp://shoreacres.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-62168624975211121982012-02-07T13:23:45.875+00:002012-02-07T13:23:45.875+00:00I was brought up to the adage "If you can'...I was brought up to the adage "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all". If I don't like something I've read, I don't comment. Simple. I couldn't be rude when someone has taken the time and trouble to write something. <br /><br />We love your blog. That's why we're here. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938431508430656253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-29083727274709341192012-02-07T13:11:06.097+00:002012-02-07T13:11:06.097+00:0043 comments in under 24 hours and 404 (known) foll...43 comments in under 24 hours and 404 (known) followers. How bad and boring can you be?<br /><br />Please note. We dog bloggers believe in positive reinforcement and encouragement. It comes from trying to train our dogs.georgia little peahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01388133043071314431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-40876061013583467022012-02-07T12:38:50.874+00:002012-02-07T12:38:50.874+00:00i love to give and receive kind, heartfelt complim...i love to give and receive kind, heartfelt compliments . . . stevenstevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14132104804524716898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-56369074533048566352012-02-07T12:21:03.873+00:002012-02-07T12:21:03.873+00:00Oh dear. If I read mean comments like that I might...Oh dear. If I read mean comments like that I might not ever write another post.<br /><br />Other random thoughts:<br />We like what we like.<br />Most of the flattery I dish out is closely aligned with attempts at manipulation.Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11710135137635433217noreply@blogger.com