tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post5274327341358490575..comments2024-03-27T16:19:53.023+00:00Comments on Friko's World: Who’d Want To Be A BurdenFrikohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-87229551201894039352015-09-28T23:42:25.565+01:002015-09-28T23:42:25.565+01:00Being a burden to others is something we do start ...Being a burden to others is something we do start to think of as we age. I hope to independent like my mother. She still lives on her own at 99, but in truth she is dependent on so many for so much. I'm not nearby to help. I hope I wouldn't be resentful if I were living closer to her and she called on me for everything. <br /><br />Caregiving is so hard. I think of you often.Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-54273941462369126782015-08-30T18:12:26.294+01:002015-08-30T18:12:26.294+01:00Being a caregiver to Buddy makes me wonder what wi...Being a caregiver to Buddy makes me wonder what will happen with him as time moves along. None of us has an inkling.Heidrun Khokhar, KleinsteMottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174142810114806410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-42515771215172198522015-08-23T20:00:31.724+01:002015-08-23T20:00:31.724+01:00Slow and steady wins the race, that popped into my...Slow and steady wins the race, that popped into my head and I'm so sorry for the cliché but hey, I know it is slow and you are steady, and he is so very blessed in having you.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-79119458026358691872015-08-21T09:31:47.524+01:002015-08-21T09:31:47.524+01:00Friko, I just caught up with your blog. I'm so...Friko, I just caught up with your blog. I'm so sorry to hear you've had such a rough time lately. I keep you both in my thoughts and hope that things will improve more and more until they are back to what was normal. I can't believe medications would do that. I'm sending you lots of energy and strength for this difficult time.Beatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14712395242968990000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-18478241536273136122015-08-19T18:16:33.220+01:002015-08-19T18:16:33.220+01:00I think people often speak to life situations they...I think people often speak to life situations they have no way of knowing about unless they've experienced it. It's maddening. Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-61032112860434233772015-08-19T04:25:22.321+01:002015-08-19T04:25:22.321+01:00I agree that "being a burden" is a harsh...I agree that "being a burden" is a harsh phrase, unkind and heartless. I couldn't have said that better. I hope that the recovery will be speedier. It's hard when time seems to stand still and you want to move on. I really wish you lots of patience.<br />The little thrush is very cute and I hope the snail was yummy (like escargots, eh?)Carola Bartzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05536486322412234854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-1611780555259862332015-08-17T20:34:28.229+01:002015-08-17T20:34:28.229+01:00Thoughts are with youThoughts are with youMaryAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12720942306084208839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-31636992956266372822015-08-16T22:30:32.558+01:002015-08-16T22:30:32.558+01:00Time does creep in these situations. I remember wh...Time does creep in these situations. I remember when my younger son was two and rather demanding. And when my invalid (and not very nice) mother-in-law was living with us. So many things I wanted to do and couldn't. I had to keep reminding myself "This is what I'm doing now." Vicki Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08114677510459055768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-67380008350486220912015-08-15T17:15:17.216+01:002015-08-15T17:15:17.216+01:00Well, when people think that they may be a burden ...Well, when people think that they may be a burden to someone that means they can still “think” – what is harder is when someone cannot think anymore and does not even know what “burden” means … as in the case with Alzheimer. But summer is nice here this year, not too warm (cooler than in California or France) and not too humid with plenty of rain – plants are thriving so, life is going on well Vagabondehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10774109692564954568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-72881806247176324722015-08-15T03:55:10.293+01:002015-08-15T03:55:10.293+01:00this is a universal fear; you said it well. this is a universal fear; you said it well. Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-73733687862781158462015-08-13T10:14:36.982+01:002015-08-13T10:14:36.982+01:00I will keep your Beloved in my prayers.
My mom&#...I will keep your Beloved in my prayers. <br /><br />My mom's husband has been more and more of a caretaker for her, though she has done pretty well recovering from strokes and a broken hip. Still, she is not quite as she used to be. I think it's hard for him, but like you, he loves her dearly…and he is patient with her. So patient.<br /><br />I am really hoping for a full recovery for Susan Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16049586085703324088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-20566417607476757292015-08-11T17:08:18.013+01:002015-08-11T17:08:18.013+01:00Hope all is going better for both of youHope all is going better for both of youMaryAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12720942306084208839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-17766007371103178972015-08-11T04:27:09.038+01:002015-08-11T04:27:09.038+01:00Blessings.....
I often hear and I dare say (though...Blessings.....<br />I often hear and I dare say (though hate to admit) have used the same phrase. It is the unforgiving reality helplessness, of not being able to help oneself with the simplest menial of tasks the abled body often take for granted. <br /><br />To depend on another for every moment of care from the very basics of hygiene maintenance etc., shreds the pride and wound the psyche. It Rhapsody Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03520384490148575528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-79563217120359945862015-08-11T03:29:33.528+01:002015-08-11T03:29:33.528+01:00My poor mother worried constantly about being a bu...My poor mother worried constantly about being a burden. And, let's be truthful here -- sometimes she was. On the other hand, in a moment of inexplicable inspiration, I once said to her, "Well, here's the deal. You have to carry the burden of age and infirmity, and I have to carry the burden of caring for you, so we're even." That's kind of a weird thing to say, just flatshoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-26464006685756651742015-08-10T21:12:07.652+01:002015-08-10T21:12:07.652+01:00No , of course no one would choose to be a burden...No , of course no one would choose to be a burden ... but the choice isn't always ours to make . SmitoniusAndSonatahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11210817141287881808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-62098632389663595782015-08-10T20:50:12.505+01:002015-08-10T20:50:12.505+01:00Patience is a tired mare. I love that line. We a...Patience is a tired mare. I love that line. We all fear being a burden on someone else. We also hope someone will be there for us. My thoughts continue to be with you. Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-17846907535667675762015-08-10T20:20:43.091+01:002015-08-10T20:20:43.091+01:00Still, the bottle of whiskey and a trip to the hil...Still, the bottle of whiskey and a trip to the hills seems like such an inviting romance at times.Lisa https://www.blogger.com/profile/09324961653370110887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-69549055481016992132015-08-10T15:05:06.379+01:002015-08-10T15:05:06.379+01:00this is one of my main complaints about doctors an...this is one of my main complaints about doctors and western medicine. many doctors are no more than pill pushers and pills are their solution to everything. treat the symptom and forget about the cause only they rarely take into consideration all the pills they have previously told you to take and how all that chemical soup might affect the mind and body. glad to hear that progress is being ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-45833860661201531882015-08-10T14:22:49.212+01:002015-08-10T14:22:49.212+01:00Your reporting of Sharla's words actually made...Your reporting of Sharla's words actually made me laugh. <br /><br />I do hope you all are now more than half way through this horrid recovery period. My mind imagines one of those little progress icon that appears on a computer screen as some sort of upload or download is taking place. Those countdowns do try my patience.<br /><br />Love to you and yours. xoFranceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352407314710067616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-91503363747662206312015-08-10T13:25:53.436+01:002015-08-10T13:25:53.436+01:00So well written, Friko, with little touches of you...So well written, Friko, with little touches of your humor still intact. I will continue to hope for strength and a good outcome for you and your beloved. Penny O'Neillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14665025558373015362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-78244172298416972942015-08-10T13:09:57.549+01:002015-08-10T13:09:57.549+01:00Where there is love, there is no burden.Where there is love, there is no burden.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-72583954211902748722015-08-10T12:02:54.691+01:002015-08-10T12:02:54.691+01:00My Mom used to say "that life wasn't a be...My Mom used to say "that life wasn't a bed of roses, but someone had to take time to care for them - and because of that, they bloomed". Anyone I have ever cared for, I have never looked it as a burden - it was my way of giving back all the wonderful things done for me when I needed it most. Some people just toss em aside when they need them or ship them off to nursing homes. We, LilliStJohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06771499579700164919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-90141946510388237632015-08-10T12:02:01.552+01:002015-08-10T12:02:01.552+01:00Caregiving is a plodding thing and it was when I h...Caregiving is a plodding thing and it was when I help my mother. I just took each day. It was lonely as all my siblings were busy with jobs and family and I had agreed to a two month shift...but I knew in the end I could return home! I remember thinking I want to be like Morrie int he book ""Tuesdays With Morrie when I am feeling I could be a burden. Hope you are finding a break Taborhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15257045780724471840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-22563552874069106272015-08-10T10:46:18.175+01:002015-08-10T10:46:18.175+01:00Unfortunately there are people who enjoy to be &qu...Unfortunately there are people who enjoy to be "a burden" ! One of those was my own father ! He really enjoyed to make life difficult, and even asked me to move in with him and leave my husband and son alone ! So I always hope to never be a burden to anybody. But of course taking care of my husband would never be a burden to me, although it would certainly be a difficult life. I hope Gattinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06636525277807715146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-38029696016907274292015-08-10T09:43:38.454+01:002015-08-10T09:43:38.454+01:00"If a person you love needs help, you give it..."If a person you love needs help, you give it freely." And so you do dear Friko. And time plods on, but hopefully your goal will be reached soon and Beloved will be strong again.<br /><br />On a personal note and an entirely different scenario, my Handsome One was never viewed as a burden by myself for over fourteen years, that is until, after hospitalisation, social workers became hyperCRYPTICalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11967085628384237933noreply@blogger.com