tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post5261162534204109826..comments2024-03-27T16:19:53.023+00:00Comments on Friko's World: Looking back , looking forwardFrikohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-38104552782136802552019-11-15T06:59:19.302+00:002019-11-15T06:59:19.302+00:00Oh dear, sincere condolences on the loss of dear s...Oh dear, sincere condolences on the loss of dear sweet Millie...one is never quite prepared no matter how prepared we believe we will be. Feeling your sorrow, truly. XRose ~ from Ozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01908281749611280188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-74074481306542515922019-11-01T17:03:20.696+00:002019-11-01T17:03:20.696+00:00Dear Friko, over 50 years ago, after leaving the c...Dear Friko, over 50 years ago, after leaving the convent when I was 30 1/2 years old, I lost all desire to do anything but exist. Drawing breath seemed enough for each day. Anything more--anything involving prioritizing or making decisions--seemed overwhelming. These were tasks of the past. I could no longer handle them.<br /><br />I ended up going to a psychiatrist once weekly for two years. I Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-14726123812838211322019-10-31T04:56:27.820+00:002019-10-31T04:56:27.820+00:00I am so sad to hear that your dear Millie has died...I am so sad to hear that your dear Millie has died. She was such a loving companion for you and of course you feel very lonely now. You are in a fragile state and need to only do what you wish, be lazy and don’t feel bad about it. It is difficult sometime to fully release the things that seemed crucial in time past, but which are now not really that important.<br /><br />As with you, my Vagabondehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10774109692564954568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-34819363210550383252019-10-30T03:46:47.071+00:002019-10-30T03:46:47.071+00:00What a blow. I am so sorry.
About your thoughts ...What a blow. I am so sorry. <br /><br />About your thoughts of "shoulds" and being vs. doing - it seems that you understand the battle, and that's half the battle, right? But it's kind of a grueling process anyway. There's very little support for being a homebody these days; people who aren't content with the life you describe (which sounds pretty great to me) can't GretchenJoannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641677400029070452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-61974846767753490342019-10-29T10:40:18.559+00:002019-10-29T10:40:18.559+00:00hallo u., ich war lange nicht mehr hier und überha...hallo u., ich war lange nicht mehr hier und überhaupt bin ich nicht mehr viel im internet unterwegs, ausser zu spezifischen recherchen oder buchungen etc. es tut mir leid wegen milly und ich wollte dir sagen, dass ich dein leid sehr gut nachfühlen kann. ich selbst hatte damals meine fast 17 jährige hündin einschläfern lassen, da sie nierenprobleme hatte und eine woche nichts gegessen hatte. Renéehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11325604073581280336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-80458225481408442912019-10-28T11:29:31.714+00:002019-10-28T11:29:31.714+00:00Dear Friko - I'm late ... due to life - but th...Dear Friko - I'm late ... due to life - but there it is. Life can put us in a morass ... as it seems to do to me - or as is usual aging life takes us there. You've been quite philosophical and pragmatic here ... and these thoughts will continue on, and in fact won't go away ... but times will settle and you'll mentally adjust.<br /><br />It sounds like the right things are Hilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-11428329491884547612019-10-27T01:06:40.423+00:002019-10-27T01:06:40.423+00:00I am so sorry to hear that your sweet Millie has d...I am so sorry to hear that your sweet Millie has died. She will be forever in your heart...it is a difficult transition not having a pet. My heart goes out to you. I say do whatever you want and not what other people think you should do:)Far Side of Fiftyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-30585184359727089672019-10-25T16:45:30.334+01:002019-10-25T16:45:30.334+01:00I'm so sorry to hear about Millie. Pets are fa...I'm so sorry to hear about Millie. Pets are family and it's devastating to lose them. You write very movingly and I hope you settle into a way of life that brings you joy and comfort. We all go through phases, who knows how you will feel a few months down the line? Just accept your feelings they are yours and no one else's. I wish you every happiness.<br /><a href="http://Around My Kitchen Tablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01840917368903178857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-86683706630185505472019-10-25T03:07:35.891+01:002019-10-25T03:07:35.891+01:00We think we are prepared for the death of a loved ...We think we are prepared for the death of a loved one but nothing really prepares us for the finality of death -the cessation of a life and finding ourselves catapulted into the next stage of our life alone - take the time you have now been given - there is no time limit on grieving - try not to ask too many questions of yourself - just be - enjoy what you can - be aware of the love given to you Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09942029612717152750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-7339502383008069722019-10-24T15:13:40.151+01:002019-10-24T15:13:40.151+01:00I often employ the Option Method questions when I ...I often employ the Option Method questions when I find guilt or restlessness ruling my feelings. Some of the information on this website feels a little new-agey to me but I've actually worked with a practitioner and the questions do bring a clarity of thought. I like the way you are honest with yourself about the way you feel. We all, after all, live in our own heads. Listen to yours and not Paulinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14555472024981357622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-82440262154288677252019-10-23T17:38:35.044+01:002019-10-23T17:38:35.044+01:00I'm so sorry about Millie. I know that was a h...I'm so sorry about Millie. I know that was a hard loss.<br /><br />I think life brings several periods where you stop and reassess and figure out who you are and how you want to live going forward. That's just where you are right now.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-36004389449450817502019-10-21T22:24:23.063+01:002019-10-21T22:24:23.063+01:00I am sorry to hear about the loss of your darling ...I am sorry to hear about the loss of your darling Millie. Do not push yourself too hard as you go through another grieving process. Re-read the "about me" section on your sidebar and do those things as much or as little as you like. Lori W.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03486653652164483702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-73299340933647656572019-10-21T16:46:13.190+01:002019-10-21T16:46:13.190+01:00Dear Friko, I am so sorry to hear of Millie's ...Dear Friko, I am so sorry to hear of Millie's passing. I know you knew it was inevitable and had sen the signs but that doesn't really ease the loss, does it? I'm glad you were with Manzana and your kind vet was able to come to your home. It may be some time before you decide if you can share your home with another dog; perhaps one day, perhaps an older dog who needs love and company.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-79962566024564933692019-10-21T14:47:31.618+01:002019-10-21T14:47:31.618+01:00Your post is heart felt and written with such hone...Your post is heart felt and written with such honesty. I am sorry about your poor Millie. Life certainly has its twists, and turns and it seems we constantly have to reinvent ourselves. You will find your niche. Let your heart heal.Linda O'Connellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15982895073903619018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-14308998704036522792019-10-20T14:29:23.228+01:002019-10-20T14:29:23.228+01:00There is so much wisdom and honesty in your posts ...There is so much wisdom and honesty in your posts and the comments that follow. It’s amazing how well you express your feelings. Gerlinde de Broekerthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06174961875518661639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-56665459985260336982019-10-20T03:17:41.746+01:002019-10-20T03:17:41.746+01:00So very sorry about Millie. You are in such transi...So very sorry about Millie. You are in such transition and grief, please see if you can get some grief counselling, it helped me tremendously. A beloved pet dying opens up all the grief in your life anew.<br /><br />I recommend and Ursula LeGuin my daughter gave me : Somewhere Near the End, the last book I think before she died last year. I found it very helpful in coming to terms with being Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-1172112768279013212019-10-20T02:51:53.407+01:002019-10-20T02:51:53.407+01:00Of course I'm sorry that Millie has gone. I no...Of course I'm sorry that Millie has gone. I no longer experience the grief of Dixie Rose's death as an emotion, but I remember it, and how hard it was at the time. I so much enjoyed having her around, but now my situation is rather like yours: solitary in my home, without family, and a few years left on this earth. Once some time has passed, you may find, as I have, that being without theshoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-77217959497320517062019-10-20T01:01:13.348+01:002019-10-20T01:01:13.348+01:00there is no sorrow like this sort.
I am glad to s...there is no sorrow like this sort. <br />I am glad to see you are surrounded by Love here in the comments. Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-4247182258557534372019-10-19T14:01:08.093+01:002019-10-19T14:01:08.093+01:00Understand you dear Friko, all the wonderful comme...Understand you dear Friko, all the wonderful comments I understand, strange I have not felt old until now, do not like that word and call myself the Ancient One<br />when in fact recent birthday I turned 85 and I smile. So much has changed and I yearned<br />for the old way but not anymore, contentment and acceptance is happening, just do not like the pain of arthritis :) You are right where One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12548226150115102345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-47248541933206589392019-10-19T09:23:30.025+01:002019-10-19T09:23:30.025+01:00So difficult to let a companion like Millie go, an...So difficult to let a companion like Millie go, and I understand and sympathize with your grief. Talking to a therapist about your situation would not hurt and could really be helpful, if she's any good. I would recommend it strongly. You have endured some painful losses and I don't find it surprising that you have trouble summoning up the will to do more with your life than wait it out.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892637441668897411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-17635081564836047432019-10-19T02:26:48.571+01:002019-10-19T02:26:48.571+01:00So sorry about Millie. As DJan says, you do commun...So sorry about Millie. As DJan says, you do communicate with the written word well and I like your honesty and self doubt. I feel a bit frozen in time at the moment, unable to move forward after retirement. It's not that I want to work, but I was so organised when I worked, and on the surface I still am, but it is not how I feel. I should be achieving a lot more at the age of 62, but then I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-25998341796350812332019-10-18T23:43:14.756+01:002019-10-18T23:43:14.756+01:00So very sorry that you have lost Millie...and so v...So very sorry that you have lost Millie...and so very glad that she went quietly at home.<br />Take your time...to have been organising and being responsible for others all your life makes it hard to find that you have only yourself to organise. Sounds like freedom, but in fact it is not.<br />Being 'on parade' 24/7 means that I cannot volunteer, take on anything which cannot be dropped the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-43098549931881942002019-10-18T22:30:27.113+01:002019-10-18T22:30:27.113+01:00I read your post, and then all the comments. Many ...I read your post, and then all the comments. Many of them are like family to me, since we communicate through the blogosphere and share the ups and downs of life. I'm so sorry to learn of the loss of Millie. I look forward to hearing how you are doing in a month or two, once the new life situation as settled in. You are a gifted communicator, Friko, so I hope you will continue to grace your DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-88773478483177995422019-10-18T21:45:40.036+01:002019-10-18T21:45:40.036+01:00I am so sorry to hear of Millie's death. You m...I am so sorry to hear of Millie's death. You may feel like retiring from the world for a while, and that is so understandable, but, perhaps selfishly, I hope you keep writing your blog. Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-76520261264977019162019-10-18T20:57:59.585+01:002019-10-18T20:57:59.585+01:00I am sorry to read of your loss. Hugs to you. Don&...I am sorry to read of your loss. Hugs to you. Don't berate yourself. You are grieving yet again. Wishing you peace.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.com