tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post4601642023000714025..comments2024-03-27T16:19:53.023+00:00Comments on Friko's World: Frying Pan MomentsFrikohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-53763720415479069362011-02-10T17:17:58.827+00:002011-02-10T17:17:58.827+00:00'Frying pan moments' - I love it! I know I...'Frying pan moments' - I love it! I know I'm unreasonable about some things (and people) but recognising it makes it worse. How lucky to have a 'Lauren' like yours.jabbloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12176958811589489979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-20772995142254693452011-02-06T21:42:46.960+00:002011-02-06T21:42:46.960+00:00'I tend to smile and turn the conversation awa...'I tend to smile and turn the conversation away from hurtful ground': ahh, there's so much of me here, dear Friko :D <br />I would probably buy a second frying pan too, as I am fastidious and take extreme care with my belongings!More Than Meets the Ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17904789091298274078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-19943482816815320812011-02-06T17:40:27.770+00:002011-02-06T17:40:27.770+00:00I like the whole idea of having "frying pan m...I like the whole idea of having "frying pan moments," since the image that arises in my mind is the idea of living free enough to have them! I would NEVER let anybody touch a favorite pan, and I'm glad you fixed this problem with a replacement. Now just getting through the visit...<br /><br />You certainly have been given some great ideas here in the comments!DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-49117423647200326532011-02-06T12:35:31.478+00:002011-02-06T12:35:31.478+00:00My thinking is like Hilary's: I would've j...My thinking is like Hilary's: I would've just hidden the pan for the duration. But of course providing the Guest with His Own Pan is a much better idea. THEN hide the good one.<br />I have a Lauren Person too, to whom I have referred in AG as Trusted Friend. Such a comfort to go and dump your bucket, isn't it? No matter the issue, it's always <i>better</i> afterward.Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11710135137635433217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-78113009728408941702011-02-06T11:22:39.993+00:002011-02-06T11:22:39.993+00:00What a great metaphor! I'm going to remember t...What a great metaphor! I'm going to remember this one. I can see it becoming a national idiom!<br /><br />My husband is annoyingly good at this. Annoyingly because I'm not. He can tell anyone anything, because they know he isn't being cruel or judgmental, just factual. He truly lives in the moment. Well most of the time. <br /><br />But really, what a brilliant and easy solution to Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204074161539605133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-39595978904333049042011-02-06T04:46:30.523+00:002011-02-06T04:46:30.523+00:00A wise counselor! And you are wise for visiting h...A wise counselor! And you are wise for visiting her.Vicki Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08114677510459055768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-52825228819178083472011-02-05T22:28:17.147+00:002011-02-05T22:28:17.147+00:00Oh dear Friko I really thought you had clacked som...Oh dear Friko I really thought you had clacked somwbody with the frying pan - I could see the headlines in the local paper!snailbeachshepherdesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01397158758052413758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-10396893126357357602011-02-05T22:05:45.464+00:002011-02-05T22:05:45.464+00:00Two very sensible women here, you and Lauren. It&...Two very sensible women here, you and Lauren. It's remarkable how we can be fixed on something, to the point of being overtaken by our resentment. <br />Telling someone what bothers you always seems confrontational, and most of us avoid that. Out of fear of a scene, or being disliked. It's really quite ridiculous. <br />The frying pan analogy is going to help quite a few of us out, IDeborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892637441668897411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-71181857468380838292011-02-05T21:23:56.831+00:002011-02-05T21:23:56.831+00:00Hi Friko!!! LOL @ "frying pan moments" ....Hi Friko!!! LOL @ "frying pan moments" . . . I've had many and can so relate to your post.<br /><br />My story has a different twist, but the incidents are definitely "frying pan-ish moments" . . . my issues stem from the being a widow. ALMOST EVERYTHING that surrounds me is special. I cringe when anyone gets near my "special stuff" . . . and I know it sounds Gina Alfanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08214549036466247283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-23137499010551053152011-02-05T18:05:53.113+00:002011-02-05T18:05:53.113+00:00I, too, love the 'frying pan moment'. I mu...I, too, love the 'frying pan moment'. I must tell this to my best friend who is a therapist. I am sure she will use it with her clients. <br /><br />I had a therapist once when I was going through a very bad time in my life. He was of very little help, but when I started crying an couldn't stop he took me to the psychiatrist. I told the shrink how I analyzed my feelings. He Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18373134676852496647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-10621819646115461692011-02-05T17:12:25.915+00:002011-02-05T17:12:25.915+00:00Sounds like you have a wonderful counsellor who ma...Sounds like you have a wonderful counsellor who makes exactly the right suggestions. It has set me thinking about a difficult visitor who comes to stay - wondering how to work out what are the actual frying pan moments, and what can be ignored. Thanks for being so honest, it helps a lot.Fredahttp://www.freda.org.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-17058553322701769392011-02-05T17:02:14.331+00:002011-02-05T17:02:14.331+00:00So interesting you mentioned this today Friko. I ...So interesting you mentioned this today Friko. I too have pans I have had forever (it seems). It took David a while to understand why I do not like these pans put into the dish washer. We sought help from a psychatrist who worked with couples and he had us join a group. Today, I do not have any trouble letting David know how I feel, but sometimes I still feel a little guilty about it. Over schmidleysscribblins.wordpress.comhttp://schmidleysscribblins.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-59742646540298118992011-02-05T15:36:58.069+00:002011-02-05T15:36:58.069+00:00Smiling about the 'frying pan moments' ;-)...Smiling about the 'frying pan moments' ;-) <br /><br />At one point in my life I decided I couldn't handle my parents anymore. Long story. So I broke off contact with them. Which resulted in them going into therapy. And then their therapist suggested I'd come to one of their sessions and talk about things. That all came back to me when I read the questions Lauren asked you about Carolinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09288856854422999687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-46076834528052067212011-02-05T14:46:45.579+00:002011-02-05T14:46:45.579+00:00i can relate entirely to this post - there are thi...i can relate entirely to this post - there are things that i really don't like: like sharing a plate of food or someone trying to feed me food - its my space, if you know what i mean<br /><br />I think a cheap frying pan for your visitor is definately the way forward - but i wonder how often we all get into situations because we don't just say how we're feelingDon't Feed The Pixieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05380146661526476947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-81582065219668931332011-02-05T14:07:50.205+00:002011-02-05T14:07:50.205+00:00Good morning Friko. Once again, I have treated my...Good morning Friko. Once again, I have treated myself to the time to catch up on your posts. As I've said before, I feel that you write very well about varied topics and I like to savor your words.<br /><br />What a variety I have found today. The post about winter and sheep and lambs took me outdoors to nature, and the caring for young animals.<br /><br />The post about bricks at first Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352407314710067616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-82331638884853767592011-02-05T12:57:40.887+00:002011-02-05T12:57:40.887+00:00Oh my yes. I've had quite a few frying pan mo...Oh my yes. I've had quite a few frying pan moments in my life. I do tend to resent the small things more than the big ones.marciamayohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18185069576683872041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-90209031139583555592011-02-05T11:16:36.622+00:002011-02-05T11:16:36.622+00:00Really liked this post, Friko. Imagine having your...Really liked this post, Friko. Imagine having your very own guest-of-honour frying pan! Gosh, That's hospitality! (And sanity for you.)The Solitary Walkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11284354541952038339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-58313306361693093472011-02-05T10:40:08.332+00:002011-02-05T10:40:08.332+00:00ein wundervolles Post, von dem man ja selbst so vi...ein wundervolles Post, von dem man ja selbst so viel lernen kann. Ich habe mit der Zeit für mich herausgefunden, dass man solche Probleme besser sofort zur Sprache bringt, anstatt sie in sich vergrössern zu lassen, bis sie wie ein Sturm herausbrechen. Wie schön, eine so klare und wunderbare Gesprächspartnerin zu haben!<br />Dir einen sehr schönen Tag und innerliche Stille und Gleichmut! <br />IchAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-72253783001094657912011-02-05T05:16:16.201+00:002011-02-05T05:16:16.201+00:00I'd like a Lauren in my life too. The frying ...I'd like a Lauren in my life too. The frying pan moment was such a gift to you - and buying a cheaper pan, just for your guest was hard to see until it was pointed out.<br />I hope the visit goes well, and that no one gets whacked (accidentally, of course)with a frying pan.Pondsidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02407539138546412482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-87368746519689150512011-02-05T04:15:38.903+00:002011-02-05T04:15:38.903+00:00Sounds like you've found the perfect therapist...Sounds like you've found the perfect therapist to get the the root of your concerns. I love the idea of buying a cheap pan. I was thinking you should just hide the good one but replacing it for their visits is much better. Good luck.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-19327671280489833422011-02-05T03:37:06.921+00:002011-02-05T03:37:06.921+00:00I love your frying pan moments. Like Molly I stil...I love your frying pan moments. Like Molly I still too often get the urge to whack certain folks over the head with one. I have a wonderful therapist, Janet, who is helping me with anger management as well as my highs and lows.Clare Gnecco, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02690233327924475427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-56484678491877311872011-02-05T02:53:45.680+00:002011-02-05T02:53:45.680+00:00I have a few people in my life whom I would thorou...I have a few people in my life whom I would thoroughly enjoy whacking with a frying pan! Glad you found Lauren. She sounds like a treasure! Always nice to get an objective perspective on our frying pan moments and the folk who cause them......mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797484583400519909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-43054137527904059812011-02-05T02:03:14.366+00:002011-02-05T02:03:14.366+00:00It is wonderful that you have discovered someone w...It is wonderful that you have discovered someone who can carefully lead you in a new direction. Having worked for two very gifted therapists years ago, I saw the importance of finding that neutral zone where a client felt comfortable. Then those steps ahead can begin.Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07395890193161794631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-52148698771105879992011-02-05T01:26:07.427+00:002011-02-05T01:26:07.427+00:00It's great to be able to talk to someone like ...It's great to be able to talk to someone like this, the right person: intelligent, sensitive and impartial. (I'd be hiding the pan until they left)Mark Kerstetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13307987573435067415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-72251005390944271692011-02-05T01:25:56.718+00:002011-02-05T01:25:56.718+00:00friko - it's so hard to explain the simple thi...friko - it's so hard to explain the simple things like glasses that make beer taste better because they've never known soap, ditto for coffee pots, tea pots, frying pans. because of that i have extras for those to whom those little strange quirks of mine are anathema. it's a simple remedy and leaves everyone feeling good and almost whole and perhaps even loved!!!! stevenstevenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14132104804524716898noreply@blogger.com