tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post4169428162165437988..comments2024-03-27T16:19:53.023+00:00Comments on Friko's World: My Own Worst Enemy?Frikohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-52984910624150800252016-06-22T23:43:50.391+01:002016-06-22T23:43:50.391+01:00You are quite right, you need to do what feels rig...You are quite right, you need to do what feels right to you - there is no need to expect yourself to change just because your circumstances have changed. There is nothing wrong with hating communal get togethers - they can really set the teeth on edge. I wonder if you will be able to fix up a few more outings with friends, when you can relax and be yourselves? Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-12818734094030460902016-06-12T19:51:24.493+01:002016-06-12T19:51:24.493+01:00“I don’t believe that going with my instincts make...“I don’t believe that going with my instincts makes me an enemy to myself.”<br /><br />I find that I can please others or I can please myself by being who I am. I feel as you do about situations in which people talk competitively. It’s easy to be in such venues and wonder what is wrong with oneself, when the fact is that other introverts would feel the same if they were there, which they don’t Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-412683477456609462016-06-11T01:42:30.847+01:002016-06-11T01:42:30.847+01:00It is hard to admit the same, as I have for years ...It is hard to admit the same, as I have for years smiled and been sociable. It wasn't true, it was false and opposed to who and what I/we are. The only company we truly enjoy is that of our family. Immerse yourself in the company of those whom you love and who deserve your time.Susan Kanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834094675218254410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-23310504643742774992016-06-09T13:02:20.504+01:002016-06-09T13:02:20.504+01:00I'm with you and your beloved. I shall go into...I'm with you and your beloved. I shall go into my dotage alone, thank you, except for close family and a few fine friends. Paulinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14555472024981357622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-29440357033935575282016-06-09T02:29:33.411+01:002016-06-09T02:29:33.411+01:00It's not stand-offish or superior to prefer mo...It's not stand-offish or superior to prefer more intimate gatherings. People are just wired differently that way, with some preferring big social groups and other the company of another person or two (or even none).Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-74439060286726133932016-06-09T01:52:57.224+01:002016-06-09T01:52:57.224+01:00To Thine Own Self Be True. I don't know how a...To Thine Own Self Be True. I don't know how anyone could be happy going against themselves and joining activities that do not make them happy. I could see you doing that least of all. I think of you fondly, and pray that this difficult time will also bring you great companionship and comfort with those you find most companionable and comforting. My best to you, always. Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-75595741931503502282016-06-02T04:37:14.855+01:002016-06-02T04:37:14.855+01:00No, Friko, I don't think that going with your ...No, Friko, I don't think that going with your instincts makes you an enemy to yourself. I know it to be very, very hard for some of us to do what others do so very easily - the joining, the playing games, the group outings. I think it would be terribly presumptuous of any of us (who are all fond of you, I believe, and wish only the best for you) to offer 'you should' or 'why notPondsidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02407539138546412482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-57031854382818335662016-06-02T03:28:29.545+01:002016-06-02T03:28:29.545+01:00No wonder Beloved is crawling out the moment games...No wonder Beloved is crawling out the moment games and communal activities are mentioned. I would as well. <br />However, I also think your doctor is right and you should do something for yourself that you enjoy. I hope you can find a solution. Is there someone who could sit with Beloved while you're away? And is it possible to have lunch or tea with your friends a little bit more often than Carola Bartzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05536486322412234854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-78662433508362670532016-06-01T21:10:57.026+01:002016-06-01T21:10:57.026+01:00Trust your instincts, Friko, Whatever works for yo...Trust your instincts, Friko, Whatever works for you (as long as it is legal) is ok. Protect your own time and don't feel guilty, everyone needs some rest, stimulation or relaxation and you are entitled to your own ways of finding this. Blessings from Dalamory.Fredahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12112672598946758847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-11837429777332605422016-05-30T02:15:24.154+01:002016-05-30T02:15:24.154+01:00There is a lot of merit and truth to 'going wi...There is a lot of merit and truth to 'going with the instincts' rather than listening to the mob/inner voices telling you to do otherwise. Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-75279108681904311922016-05-29T01:52:18.210+01:002016-05-29T01:52:18.210+01:00Oh, I understand -- being averse to crowds myself....Oh, I understand -- being averse to crowds myself. But I do hope you can find a kind sitter to stay with your Beloved so you can get out on your own now and then. Vicki Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08114677510459055768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-68923139046582410472016-05-28T20:56:18.938+01:002016-05-28T20:56:18.938+01:00You cannot apologize for not reading other's b...You cannot apologize for not reading other's blogs. You are too kind. Keep the pace from day to day, one foot in front of the other and my simple little blog will be waiting.Taborhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11053208644196545549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-10382510406518262202016-05-26T19:19:29.131+01:002016-05-26T19:19:29.131+01:00We each must move at our own speed and along our o...We each must move at our own speed and along our own path, even if it's not the same path someone else might have chosen. There is no right or wrong way to deal with things; you must be true to yourself. Good luck -- and feel free to use your blog to vent. We are all pulling for you! xoxox Canadian Chickadeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12995693884248628958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-41789650786359065412016-05-26T16:28:51.539+01:002016-05-26T16:28:51.539+01:00I agree with you, Friko. I do not like to be in th...I agree with you, Friko. I do not like to be in the company of the unfamiliar elderly and sick people, to me better to be alone or with a dear person to whom is interesting to talk.Nadezdahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159291982383302922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-48175047600934469352016-05-25T18:20:49.310+01:002016-05-25T18:20:49.310+01:00It seems clear to me that you've got to do thi...It seems clear to me that you've got to do things your way. Healing doesn't come by doing what works for another person; it has to do with what works for oneself. So maybe you just try to orchestrate more of those intimate get togethers, even if they are just to chat and have dessert together. It doesn't have to be a special event, just a more frequent one. And I think the me-time is Susan Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16049586085703324088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-9210338811661954942016-05-24T20:35:55.410+01:002016-05-24T20:35:55.410+01:00I am so with you. On Saturday last I had 2 events ...I am so with you. On Saturday last I had 2 events which I was committed to being at but the 3rd? I was honest. I said "The other two have me socialized out for several days, I can't possibly overload myself." And there were puzzled looks but no comments which relieved me.<br />I think like you do. Organized thigh slapping communal events? I just about lose it completely. A form of Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-86995122934816617712016-05-24T19:49:55.461+01:002016-05-24T19:49:55.461+01:00Friko, can relate to all you share. I do not like...Friko, can relate to all you share. I do not like group gatherings and seems<br />most I was close too have now passed away. Started over 8 years ago, fine<br />until this last year, doing all I know to do.<br />So important that one day a week you do something for yourself. My Journey To Mindfulnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15743386000772274656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-85948598225091941532016-05-24T19:00:46.797+01:002016-05-24T19:00:46.797+01:00Everyone's right ... One day a week is vital ,...Everyone's right ... One day a week is vital , whatever you do with it . <br />Visiting the library or a museum , having coffee and a bun in a nearby town , even a bus ride ... as long as it gets you away . <br />You just have to explain to the day care center that your husband will be quite happy to be left in a comfortable chair with his book and a cup of coffee for an hour or two . After SmitoniusAndSonatahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11210817141287881808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-45213497714223331172016-05-24T17:58:37.380+01:002016-05-24T17:58:37.380+01:00Like almost everybody else commenting, I also disl...Like almost everybody else commenting, I also dislike group "fun." It is stressful and draining, especially if one isn't feeling well to begin with. Wishing you the best from far away. Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281288495129054688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-76972580471197350742016-05-24T13:39:49.601+01:002016-05-24T13:39:49.601+01:00Dear Friko,
I can so relate...Ralph and I are not ...Dear Friko,<br />I can so relate...Ralph and I are not chit chat....games like children people. We like to be on our own and do things our way, not social for the sake of social. Do the things that you love and that you can. Its the best we can do and I thing the best for us. I was glad to see a post up as I often think of you both. Take care and God Bless you both.Fionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05348495575211204989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-66190857806748643492016-05-24T08:53:12.157+01:002016-05-24T08:53:12.157+01:00I hear U, friend Friko ... lovely to read Ur thoug...I hear U, friend Friko ... lovely to read Ur thoughts ... and U know what? I have my lil fibre optic x mas tree up all year round ... because I like it, and nobody can tell me different ... so there ... smiles ... Love, cat.^.^https://www.blogger.com/profile/17422876955246850636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-34876130740508327712016-05-23T23:29:53.134+01:002016-05-23T23:29:53.134+01:00I put one foot in front of the other and keep on k...I put one foot in front of the other and keep on keeping on. David has not got off the deep end yet, but his hearing is so bad I must do most of the driving. He takes his old banger, totaled a few months ago, to the grocery store, down a back street four blocks away. Meanwhile, I've been on acryingjag with my daughter who became. Grandmother three days ago. She misses he Dad. I miss my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-8920533826994807352016-05-23T22:35:31.248+01:002016-05-23T22:35:31.248+01:00My comment was not intended to publish as a reply ...My comment was not intended to publish as a reply to Cloudia -- sorry. joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999395062839739698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-72886814300569003112016-05-23T22:32:32.458+01:002016-05-23T22:32:32.458+01:00I don't necessarily agree with Mr. Google but ...I don't necessarily agree with Mr. Google but that's another topic. I totally agree with your Dr.'s recommendations -- you must take care of yourself to stay well & also be able to care for your loved one. I join the consensus of others here to seek what gives you pleasure whether alone, with another or a few, but doesn't have to be many. There's something to be said joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999395062839739698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-9044993422566915162016-05-23T21:16:56.095+01:002016-05-23T21:16:56.095+01:00The all clear on the dental image took 2 weeks! I ...The all clear on the dental image took 2 weeks! I still panic a little remembering it! Cloudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853753108637831069noreply@blogger.com