tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post3972325974167598306..comments2024-03-27T16:19:53.023+00:00Comments on Friko's World: Good Days Bad Days . . . . .Frikohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-29824309035118036992017-02-28T15:59:13.451+00:002017-02-28T15:59:13.451+00:00May your sharing help to bring about a healing and...May your sharing help to bring about a healing and wholeness in time. Blessings from Freda at DalamoryFredahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12112672598946758847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-26525035117938852762017-02-28T00:19:01.452+00:002017-02-28T00:19:01.452+00:00Just checking to see how you're doing...Hugs.Just checking to see how you're doing...Hugs.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-65536462284016357602017-02-19T05:33:03.294+00:002017-02-19T05:33:03.294+00:00Yes it was the best way to move forward. And no gu...Yes it was the best way to move forward. And no guilt is a good way to move forward as is missing time away to give yourself a moment to regroup as the process moves along. His instruments will be useful by those who love them. And it is nice that you are cooking a bit. All I keep feeling is your terrific courage as your partner is moving slowly away. Your words are very touching.Heidrun Khokhar, KleinsteMottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174142810114806410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-16404381008635802602017-02-18T18:05:27.622+00:002017-02-18T18:05:27.622+00:00Thank you for sharing this journey -- it is so goo...Thank you for sharing this journey -- it is so good to see how strong you are.Vicki Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08114677510459055768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-39793564826510869072017-02-18T02:58:57.757+00:002017-02-18T02:58:57.757+00:00Such a difficult time. You are a woman of great co...Such a difficult time. You are a woman of great courage and I am honored to be included in your journey. Thank you for putting yourself on the page.<br /><br />I know you are doing the right things. I know it.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-37960712246475491372017-02-17T09:37:35.131+00:002017-02-17T09:37:35.131+00:00FYI Schmidley's dtr wants her Mother's blo...FYI Schmidley's dtr wants her Mother's blog friends to know Mom has had stroke - is in ICU. joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999395062839739698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-81675950422933725912017-02-16T22:39:49.280+00:002017-02-16T22:39:49.280+00:00It is best not to feel guilty, there is nothing yo...It is best not to feel guilty, there is nothing you can do to change the situation. Jenny Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881781466502273314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-80873903282933925252017-02-16T06:28:16.995+00:002017-02-16T06:28:16.995+00:00There should be no quilt, he is safe and well care...There should be no quilt, he is safe and well cared for, I think he would have done the same for you :)Far Side of Fiftyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-44374386598095128562017-02-15T03:02:22.256+00:002017-02-15T03:02:22.256+00:00I could barely get through the reading of this bec...I could barely get through the reading of this because it touched me at the deepest core. You have shown me how to love well. Bitter regret can be a blessing when it relieves one of those feelings and thoughts that we could have done more when in reality you did what was the loving and kind act for Beloved by giving him what you could not provide. You are on my heart. Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-83306189807191993222017-02-13T23:25:36.668+00:002017-02-13T23:25:36.668+00:00You are such a decent, forthright, and honest pers...You are such a decent, forthright, and honest person. I respect so much your ability to move through this with such clear-eyed understanding. Our thoughts are with you daily, as always.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15674930917585246294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-77811778718717752202017-02-13T15:58:54.404+00:002017-02-13T15:58:54.404+00:00Ah, Friko. I've been reading your accounts of ...Ah, Friko. I've been reading your accounts of yours and your Beloved's foray into foreign territory. You are the consummate artist, painting word pictures that let us accompany you into both the reality and imagination of your days. These stories help those of us who have not experienced this yet know it might be coming. Thank you for your honesty and your compassion and for sharing such Paulinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14555472024981357622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-39789847859712154082017-02-13T01:25:17.769+00:002017-02-13T01:25:17.769+00:00I always save your posts for a time when I have a ...I always save your posts for a time when I have a little extra time: not just to read, but to grieve for you, to let my own pain at your pain subside, to ponder. I'm relieved beyond words to hear you say that the guilt is ebbing, if not wholly gone. You could not have kept on caring for your Beloved at home - not because you are weak, but because his needs now are beyond any one person's shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-31637752470293724122017-02-13T00:24:19.104+00:002017-02-13T00:24:19.104+00:00That's so hard, but I'm glad you are comin...That's so hard, but I'm glad you are coming to some peace about it.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-49802078681303747912017-02-12T14:46:23.856+00:002017-02-12T14:46:23.856+00:00Thank you once again, dear Friko, for allowing us ...Thank you once again, dear Friko, for allowing us these views of what you are experiencing. Every post gives me so much to think about, while also causing me to wish I were able to be helping you. xoFranceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352407314710067616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-39057012764893634922017-02-12T03:33:20.426+00:002017-02-12T03:33:20.426+00:00I've been reading everyone of your posts - hav...I've been reading everyone of your posts - haven't commented much but they have made an impact. Your sharing this time in your life has gifted us all. As usual, your honesty, sadness, and yes, bravery I admire very much. Margarethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00007201357693227614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-59546072106769241542017-02-12T00:53:36.774+00:002017-02-12T00:53:36.774+00:00So very grateful you share so openly and honestly....So very grateful you share so openly and honestly. You are helping so many throw open their own doors. Blessed be, my friend. Blessed be <br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-3704668614399508102017-02-11T20:43:51.406+00:002017-02-11T20:43:51.406+00:00Blessed be, friend Friko ... for you are writing n...Blessed be, friend Friko ... for you are writing not only for yourself but countless others ... Love, cat.^.^https://www.blogger.com/profile/17422876955246850636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-18621284814977511972017-02-11T19:39:39.227+00:002017-02-11T19:39:39.227+00:00Not one of your decisions on this journey is going...Not one of your decisions on this journey is going to be wrong. You must accept that. They are just what works for you in that point in time. This was very painful to read. Losing someone so slowly with a teasing hope that you will find some part of him when you visit is cruel. I am so sorry and glad that you are adjusting.Taborhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15257045780724471840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-6302044738659821912017-02-11T17:54:50.419+00:002017-02-11T17:54:50.419+00:00The development of your and Beloved's journey ...The development of your and Beloved's journey has been heartbreaking to read about and yet so many of us have to travel this road. There are some lovely comments here which I echo wholeheartedly. I'm so pleased the guilt has abated since there was no cause: and that the sharpness and overwhelming grief subsides from time to time. Life seems so short and the end so cruel: thank swefflinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17966574718104896830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-54260365811494054102017-02-11T17:30:02.215+00:002017-02-11T17:30:02.215+00:00I am relieved for you that rational objectivity ha...I am relieved for you that rational objectivity has taken the place of guilt. It would have been an impossible situation, ending, quite possibly, with your own breakdown. Dear U, consider yourself hugged—gently. Much love. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-25523456908203001672017-02-11T15:36:30.256+00:002017-02-11T15:36:30.256+00:00I appreciate your openness and sharing your feelin...I appreciate your openness and sharing your feelings on this blog. My heart goes out to you, don't feel guilty when you take care of yourself. Gerlinde de Broekerthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06174961875518661639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-20455200594362477002017-02-11T14:52:53.077+00:002017-02-11T14:52:53.077+00:00Take care of yourself Ursula. This is difficult I...Take care of yourself Ursula. This is difficult I know. Sharing helps others (me) who are only at the beginning of the process. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-34213488621164473742017-02-11T13:41:00.794+00:002017-02-11T13:41:00.794+00:00I hope that by the time you read this, The Rover w...I hope that by the time you read this, The Rover will have entertained and enlightened you beyond your expectations. It sounds like a perfect, if brief, escape from all that surrounds you these days. These are the ways we manage to take care of ourselves. <br /><br />You have done the right thing for both of you, Friko, I hope that your writing helps you through this, and hope you know that therePenny O'Neillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14665025558373015362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-58247259259656992432017-02-11T13:17:59.509+00:002017-02-11T13:17:59.509+00:00When we had to find a safe place for my dad when h...When we had to find a safe place for my dad when his dementia became dangerous to himself and others, we felt guilty. We visited every day, taking turns so that we each had two days off. We needed to do this for ourselves so that we could cope. When we would visit, we walked in with hope that it would be a good day for him and us, but often left sad and with relief that someone was there to helpStarting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1294026230680025155.post-23157161551176372922017-02-11T13:17:31.066+00:002017-02-11T13:17:31.066+00:00This post both breaks my heart -- for your loss of...This post both breaks my heart -- for your loss of the life and love you knew and cared for with all your heart -- and for the hope that in doing this very hard thing, the knowledge that it was the right thing will move you forward. Knowing you are without guilt will help as you heal -- and there is the healing we do as we move forward now and the healing in the future. Your friends are taking Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.com